Hi everybody, this is Mr Duncan in England.
How are you today?
Are you okay?
I hope so.
Are you happy?
I hope so.
In today's lesson, we will take a look at one of the most destructive human emotions that exists.
One that can cause hurt to both the person who experiences it and to those around them.
In this lesson, we will take a look at the old green-eyed devil itself.
Jealousy.
The word jealousy is a noun that means to feel upset or bitter towards someone for a positive outcome or a moment of good fortune for that person.
You feel deep resentment for the person.
You resent their good fortune.
Your gut feeling is that of resentment and hate.
To resent is to feel negatively about someone's achievement.
You feel bitter.
You hold a grudge.
You feel protective of your own pride.
You feel jealous.
The word jealous derived in Middle English from the Old French gelos, which itself derives from the medieval Latin zelosus.
It would be fair to say that jealousy is always a negative emotion.
Some say it is one of the most destructive emotions a person can feel.
There are many examples of a situation where jealousy might take hold of someone.
For example, you have a car that is old and falling apart.
You really want to buy a new one but you can't afford it.
Suddenly, your next door neighbour arrives home in a brand new car.
Not only that, it is also an expensive model with personalised number plates.
Immediately you feel the sensation of bitterness growing inside you.
That feeling is jealousy.
Oh, look at him showing off with his new car.
Who does he think he is?
The words that come out sound resentful and bitter.
Not only do you feel jealous now, but the chances are you will feel the same way every time you see him drive off in the morning and return home in the evening.
The harsh fact is, once you let it take hold of you, the feeling of jealousy can last for a very long time.
Another Example of Jealousy
You have been working for the same company for 10 years, and you feel that perhaps this year will be the time when you get that promotion you've been waiting for.
However, when the boss announces the new positions, you find that the promotion you were hoping for is given to a person who's only been with the company for two years.
Immediately, you feel the resentment swelling inside.
The bitterness and resentment appear at almost the same time.
The feeling is a mixture of anger and jealousy.
I can't believe they offered the promotion to someone else.
I deserve it more than they do.
Quite often jealousy comes in the form of more than one emotion.
Imagine a giant sandwich with many layers.
Hate, anger, resentment, guilt, bitterness, tears and heartache.
Yes, what you have there is a giant jealousy sandwich.
There are many ways of expressing the presence of jealousy.
You feel envy.
You are envious.
You feel bitter.
You have bitterness.
You resent the person.
You harbour resentment.
You are resentful.
You hold a grudge against someone.
Jealousy can be described as spite, hatred, resentment, bitterness, envy, a chip on your shoulder.
Covetous, rancour, animosity.
We often describe a jealous person as being green with envy.
They have been affected by the green-eyed monster.
That is jealousy.
Of all the emotions a person is able to feel, jealousy is one of the worst.
But why is this so?
The emotion of jealousy can consume a person.
It eats into their soul.
It takes over their emotions.
Deep resentment can destroy a person's life.
There are times when we want to make people envious.
You might get pleasure from seeing others becoming jealous.
I've got the biggest gift for Christmas.
I have a better car than you.
My house is bigger than yours.
I have a sexy wife.
Yours is ugly.
My job takes me around the world.
I earn more money than you.
Even in advertising, envy is used to sell items.
Buy this product and make your friends jealous.
Some see it as a sad sign of the times, whilst others see it as just another way to market products to people.
What do you think?
Do you ever feel jealous of others?
Has anyone ever felt jealous of you?
How did you deal with it?
I hope you have enjoyed today's lesson and I'll see you all again soon.
This is Mr Duncan in the birthplace of English saying stay happy and until next time.
Ta ta for now.